Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Mantra for happiness : Take one day at a time...


( learnt it at SJC Kalimpong..A beautiful prayer)

One day at a time sweet Jesus,
that's all I'm asking from you
help me today
Show me the way
Show me the stairway
I have to climb
Lord for my sake
teach me to take
one day at a time

Take on life one day at a time. Make the most of today, of now. Try to live in the present n savour each moment.' cause   
aage bhee jaane na tu
peeche bhi jaane na tu
jo bhi hai
bas ek yahi pal hai 

Give each moment your best..Self doubt, hiccups, obstacles are all part of the trek towards a desired outcome. They simply add texture and newer dimensions to the otherwise staid and event-less journey called life..an added charm, a hint o spice!

So enjoy it while it's yum, n give up wishing it were smooth n bland... :)

Another 'mantra' for happiness : 'karm karo..phal kee itchaa mat karo'

'Just do your bit,do what you consider right; without any desire for recognition or rewards'

Isn't this the 'nichor' of 3 idiots too? Aamir Khan's character studied ..not for a degree.. not for marks... not for recognition, but simply for knowledge... and he ended up with success in the truest sense... a life of contentment.. of true happiness.

It's only when u can genuinely let go..when your actions cease to be a means to an end..that you'll succeed.....because u gave up hankering for it! Interestingly though..it really wont matter anymore..!!


Friday, January 22, 2010

The science of happiness






While happiness itself is sought for its own sake, every other goal — health, beauty, money, or power — is valued only because we expect that it will make us happy. — Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi


What exactly is happiness? Does money make one happy? Power... Pleasure...? And if money isn’t the key to true happiness, what is?

It has been found  that people are the happiest...not when they’re sitting mindlessly in front of the television for hours on end (even if it is a 62" LED)...but when they’re making mental or physical efforts that engage them in a challenging activity that requires skill. An activity that isn’t too easy (which would get boring) or too difficult (which would cause anxiety or frustration). An activity which offers scope for growth and improvement.

 According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi  “Contrary to what we usually believe . . . the best moments in our lives are not the passive, receptive, relaxing times — although such experiences can also be enjoyable — the best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile.”

During activities such as these, you achieve a state  in which your attention is so totally absorbed by what you’re doing there is no room in your consciousness for fear or worry. In fact, you become completely unselfconscious; for once not caring about such trifles as your appearance, what others think of you, possible outcomes (phal ki itchaa)...!!!

So to experience true bliss..be prepared to get completely lost in the moment...(jo bhi hai, bas ek yahi pal hai...)

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Pleasure and happiness...

Happiness actually has nothing to do with pleasure. You feel pleasure when you want something and you get it; or when you don't want something and you remove it. Pleasure is always relative.

True happiness on the other hand, exists irrespective of our circumstances. It is unaffected by the ups and downs of life. It is all permeable... It permeates through rejection and recognition alike and is as untouched by desires as it is by fulfillment. It's existence is contingent upon nothing... It exists in a void... is absolute... it is a state of 'happiness hamesha'

Awareness and Acceptance of ourselves, and our life circumstances are the two major landmarks in the journey towards achieving 'happiness hamesha'.